this is just a rant cause i have no one else to talk to
well me and my ex used to both work at best buy, and she was supposed to go on vacation but her work wouldnt let her go so she QUIT!!! just to go on vacation for one damn week. she was FULLTIME and made almost 10 bucks an hour, which is pretty good. she has been on vacation since saturday and she has been telling me how much she misses me and how she wants to be with me, so i sign onto her aim screename and what do i see? a guys s/n who she has cheated on me with in the past. i wrote her an e-mail telling her how much of a b***h she is and how all of her s**t will be sitting on her brothers porch waiting for her when she gets back.....ughhhhhhh im so f**king pissed right now. 2 and a half years down the damn drain. we even had the same damn car!!! only 3 years difference.
I have several of my exes and old friends in my Gmail contacts still (I don't use AIM - though they'd still be listed there too). It doesn't mean I talk to them and even when I talk to people, it doesn't mean I'm screwing them.
And if she's your ex, she's allowed to miss you AND talk to/see other guys. If she's not committed to anyone, she can do as she pleases.
I agree with Dirty. This probably has a lot to do with your trust issues too. When you're away from a person you sometimes have a tendency to remember the good only. So if you were suspicious of her and possibly controlling, then she might just remember the other good things.
Call of anymore interest with this girl. It's not her, it's you. You can't trust her, and might not trust women at all. So maybe you need some alone time so you can figure yourself out. Stop getting into relationships and don't even have sex. Don't have anything to do with women that could in any way be seen as romantic or related to being romantic. Get more secure about yourself so you can learn to trust someone else.
You banned her from talking to ANY guy? Wow... yeah, no trust issues there. That's beyond even "normal" trust issues. That will NEVER be the best for any relationship. Making rules like that will only make your partner hate you for it.
I was just about to mention that there's a saying that goes somethign like, "The people who are most suspicious of people being cheaters are those who have cheated." Seems like you are a cheater though. You better hope for your sake (if you do want to stay with her) that she doesn't believe, "once a cheater, always a cheater."
cause we have a rough past man. maybe i shouldnt of even posted this thread....why am i getting flamed when im the one doing the right thing staying loyal and shes the one doing things behind my back?!?!
eh whatever
You logged into her AIM account. That is not the right thing to do.
Maybe she cheated on your before, and you're obviously not over it yet. You said you two aren't together, so there should be no issues right now. Either you're both trying to get together and work things out, or you're not.
I've been with my boyfriend for over two years so far and I don't snoop around in his stuff. He doesn't mess with mine because he knows he wouldn't like his privacy invaded either. It's not "okay" as long as they have nothing to hide. It's still an invasion of privacy.
Do you know for a fact that what she was talking to the other guy and telling him that she'd want to be with him and not you..?
I still get weird messages from some exes. And there's no way in hell I'd get involved in anything like that ever again.
I'd get into that, but wow, too much of an iceberg there. I guess it's easier to think the other person is the only one who did wrong or did wrong at all. It's easier to think of yourself as the good guy.
i dont know if anyonesaid this but thers this says dont snoop in on hercomputer or myspace, email ect. becuase your going to find something that will boil your blood or hurt you. something to that effect
Don't look for trouble unless you want to find it. You might find something you didn't want to find.