I really just hate how high my car rides and i want it to handle and ride well at the same time. I want sways to help body roll so its even better cornering right?
Swaybars reduce body roll, sort of, the increase the
active spring rate of your suspension and tie the independent suspension together.
I understand hating how high your car is, I drove a stock height civic for 6 years. Slamming your car will make it handle worse, and getting whatever swaybars you want will not be optimal either, but generally speaking if you have no swaybars getting a 22mm front and 22mm rear is a pretty safe bet.
Slammed cars
cannot ride comfortably. If you want to completely deny the physics as a science go for it, your car will ride like ass with that little suspension/shock travel, and the rates needed to prevent the shock from bottoming out and the UCA from punching a hole in your shock tower.
To reiterate: Slammed does not handle well, means shorter life for wheel bearings, tie rods, suspension bushings, shocks, and tires. You
will be replacing all of these parts sooner than you would otherwise.
[Comfort]----------------------------O--------------------------------[Handling]
You can slide the O along this graph. Handling comes at the expense of comfort, and comfort at the expense of handling. There is no way to get both at the same time. Period. Your tolerance for harsh rides is a variable I cannot account for, that does not make the aforementioned theory untrue.
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